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About Fear of Public Speaking | Fear of Public Speaking

If you have ever seen ‘The King’s Speech” you will have seen an extreme example of fear of public speaking, and it took extreme therapeutic measures for the King to eventually ‘find his flow’ during his radio presentation. Fortunately for you there are now quicker and more efficient ways to do this using modelling, visualization and step by step approaches.
For example you can listen to great speeches on Youtube and speak along with them out loud, or memorize then recite them on your own out loud. Practice in front of a mirror, the more repetition, the more confident you will be. Recording or videoing yourself will help, it will give you feedback from which you can adjust or correct your speech style.
If you don’t have any recording or video equipment practice in front of someone who is supportive and will give you positive criticism. The next step, if you have time and a small group of people, is to practice your speech in front of them.
Many business men, executives, singer-songwriters and even a school student, recommended by her grandmother have come through my office fearful and nervous about an upcoming speech, presentation or performance. Upon follow up all of them said they did really well! So if public speaking or performance is an issue for you I have shared my best techniques for overcoming. For more information click here.

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ANXIETY and PANIC ATTACKS | Anxiety. Panic Attacks


Have you ever been invited to a party by a friend who said she would meet you there? You arrive and are greeted by total strangers, your friend has not got there yet. You start to feel nervous, tremble inside, palms feel sweaty?

You feel a sense of panic and all you want to do is get the hell out of there, even though there is no real danger. This is a typical example of social anxiety, and it is more common among our population than you think.

Social anxiety is just one of the many types of anxiety that are around. Other types of anxiety include generalized anxiety disorder, fear of flying, agoraphobia, claustrophobia, arachnophobia.

Phobias are a more severe form of anxiety. Anxiety can really mess with your life. It can prevent you enjoying a fun social life, it can cause you to  do badly in exams, it can stop you from applying for jobs that you want, to which you are entitled.

Physical symptoms of anxiety have been described as;
Shortness of breath
Rapid heartbeat
Feeling dizzy or faint
Choking sensation in the throat
Sweating not due to heat
Fear of dying
Fear of the worst happening
Fear losing control
Nervousness or trembling
Tightness or disturbance in the stomach

When experiencing any of these symptoms it is wise to have a medical check up to eliminate physical causes. Once these have been eliminated then it is very possible you have some kind of anxiety issue and in the extreme it can lead to a panic attack.

In their book HYPNOSIS FOR CHANGE Josie Hadley and Helen Staudacher have broken down the steps that lead to anxiety and described the process as the ‘ABC’s of Anxiety.’ This is how it goes:
The situation A, gives rise to the thought B, which in turn causes the anxiety C.

In the example above, when you arrive at the party and your friend is not yet there and you are among strangers (The Situation A), you might think ‘oh, I’m embarrassed, I don’t know how to handle this.’ (The Thought B) This can cause the anxiety Anxiety C.)  This ABC sequence can escalate like a feedback loop.

The feeling of anxiety can lead to further catastrophic thoughts such as ‘I feel so nervous, I don’t know these people, I don’t know what to say, I’m going to make a fool of myself.’

This kind of anxiety escalation can be difficult to stop when you are in a situation like this, at a party that you can’t leave, because you are waiting for your friend to show.

Your anxiety can be managed so long as your thoughts about this difficult situation are realistic and accurate. If they are not, there you are predicting disaster where disaster will not happen. In the extreme, this kind of process can lead to a Panic Attack. You can learn more about how you can help yourself through anxiety and PANIC ATTACKS by clicking here.

Positive Psychology


Neuroplasticity is a term used to describe, that unlike previous belief about it, the brain has the capacity to create new neural connections, and modify older connections.

It had been previously thought that the brain had a fixed number of brain cells and that once these cells were ‘killed’ by alcohol, excessive stress or other trauma they would not regenerate.  However after reading Norman Doige’s “The Brain that Changes Itself” it can be understood how the natural phenomenon ‘Neuroplasticity’ can be applied too assist people who are suffering depression or self-esteem issues.

Psychologists currently state that a person who has had Adverse Childhood Events (ACE) and later developed depression or low self esteem, that person’s condition will be harder to treat than those who have not had as severe experiences.  It has also been demonstrated  that the hypothalamus of these people was underdeveloped.

Now the question arises. If this person were to be be placed in a kind and protected environment and agreed to be kept there until his condition improved, would development of the hypothalamus resume?

I have intended for this article to be a continuation of an article I posted on Facebook last year. The article follows here:

“If you are troubled with low self esteem there is a solution. Low self esteem is common for people when they are in a state of depression. The bright side of this is that low self esteem is rarely comes from one’s self. It has usually stemmed from comments by parents, teachers or any other people who influenced our development.

For example you may have been told ‘You are stupid! You’ll never amount to anything.’ Such a comment given by a parent, teacher, older brother, sister or whoever, during a vulnerable moment could be enough for you to start to believe that you are stupid.

The subconscious mind could therefore become ‘primed’ to unconsciously seek proof from the environment that verifies the statement, thereby reinforcing low self esteem. So when something goes wrong in the person’s life, the unwilling response in the mind is ‘Oh! I AM stupid.’

People predisposed to this kind of reaction tend to focus on what goes wrong because they have been led to believe they are stupid. Their mind unconsciously ‘seeks’ cues from life events that reinforce the belief.

These people never give due recognition to things that go right in their life. They never give a thought to their positive qualities and attributes or things that they can do well, thereby maintaining the low self esteem.

The kind of thoughts, feelings, or beliefs associated with low self esteem are hardly ever self-generated. Your natural birthright and state of being is one that thrives and achieves and nothing less.

Modern science has shown the brain is not as ‘hard wired’ as it was once believed to be. New and more positive neural pathways can be created through repetition and reinforcement.

When you start to focus on your positive qualities, attributes and things that you can do well, you can overcome your beliefs or feelings of low self esteem. The secret to success is that it has to be done repetitively and consistently.

Over the next few weeks we shall be looking more into the science of ‘Neuroplasticity’ and how you can use it at your advantage to boost your self esteem.”

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