About Self Esteem

Man with low self-esteem


Most people do not choose to have a low self-esteem

The root causes of self-esteem are there and they can be easy to uncover with a little help and a little effort on your part. Upgrading your self esteem it is 100% doable.

Low self esteem comes from beliefs you hold about yourself which are probably not originally yours.

They may have been installed in your brain during early childhood, or at school, or at church, or during social interaction, or from the media, from just about anywhere but they were definitely not self-generated!

It is also possible that you unconsciously installed the beliefs as a result of some event or experience in your life. More about this later.

When these beliefs are installed they take on a life of their own and seek out confirmation from everyday events or when something goes wrong or when some aspect of your behavior doesn’t produce the wanted result.

After reading this, think about how your self-esteem was affected by someone other than yourself. To give you an example, I remember a case where a second grade school student was brought out in front of her class by her teacher who also happened to be a Weight Watchers promoter.

The teacher held a picture of herself and, pointing at the pupil, said “who would you rather look like? Her or me?” What an awful thing that happened to that poor child. It is no wonder that her self esteem plummeted to the ground.

Can you think of any instances in your life when your self esteem was affected? If so, we would love to hear about them.

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  • Reply Phyllis R. Lanich May 3, 2020 at 10:16

    Yes, The example is this blog was my story. But depression can be treated with the right medications and the help of caring professionals. BUT!!! It will take LOTS of work on your part, which is what I am undertaking now. There are also online courses that may be of help to you. Just Don’t Give UP! I hope that this blog will help lead you on the right path of recovery. As the author of this blog, Dr. Alfred Bellanti has had many years in the field of Psychology, and has had much success in helping others like me. If you have any comments or questions; please feel free to visit this blog.

    • Reply Alfred Bellanti May 3, 2020 at 10:54

      Thank you for your lovely comment Phyllis, your underlying message of ‘Just Don’t Give UP!’is the key. And just to clarify, although I have spent many years in Clinical Hypnotherapy Practice, I am not a doctor in the MD sense. Feel free to ask questions and I shall help you answer them to the best of my capacity.

  • Reply Shannan Lawson May 7, 2020 at 20:13

    These are great articles! I love it when you use real life examples. The insights are awesome and the solutions are even better.

    Depression is a simple word with a wealth of complexities. Being able to raff these blogs help us to understand how to take the steps needed to start to break free!

  • Reply Alfred Bellanti May 7, 2020 at 23:05

    Thank you for your kind comments. I really wish I could come up with tailored solution for each of the complexities you mentioned above. Guess I’ll have to work harder on my superpowers ????

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